The Theory of Attachment and Why it Matters

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The Theory of Attachment and Why it Matters

Attachment theory is an evolutionary concept based on the way individuals relate to one another in a relationship. The most important tenet is that young children need to develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver for normal social and emotional development. How this child is parented and how that caregiver relates to the child sets the stage for how that child will show up in relationships later in life. We all have a personal attachment style. It is possible to change from one style to another through awareness and healing.

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What is Self Love and Why is it So Difficult?

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What is Self Love and Why is it So Difficult?

We hear about the importance of self love so often. The topic is rampant on social media featuring endless content of people in the gym, meditating, journaling, eating clean, and so on. While these are all forms of self love, I would propose that truly loving oneself can be an even deeper experience. So what is self love and why is it so difficult?

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How to Handle Communication With a High Conflict Ex Spouse

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How to Handle Communication With a High Conflict Ex Spouse

We have all likely been on the receiving end of a high charged email, text, or other communication that feels like an attack, one you may be inclined to become defensive and even aggressive over. This is especially true when we are dealing with an ex spouse whom we share children with leading to inevitable conflicts over all sorts of issues like scheduling, transportation, holidays, events, medical issues, etc. As busy adults in an ever changing complicated world, we hope to be able to function and coordinate logistics as easily and as quickly as possible. Our intentions are usually to just get it all done and make it work as best as we can in the rubrics cube of life. So when we add a high conflict ex in the mix, it can lead to a full on meltdown in family planning and functioning. This is something no-one wants or has time for, especially the children involved. So what do we do to minimize these wrenches?

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The Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse

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The Narcissistic Cycle of Abuse

Narcissism is a hot word these days and can be used incorrectly or overused. However, that does not mean the disorder does not exist. Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) effects both men and women and is unfortunately a part of our societal reality. It is unknown how many actual cases exist but there are studies showing anywhere from 1 in 7 to 1 in 3 individuals have NPD.

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