We have all likely been on the receiving end of a high charged email, text, or other communication that feels like an attack, one you may be inclined to become defensive and even aggressive over. This is especially true when we are dealing with an ex spouse whom we share children with leading to inevitable conflicts over all sorts of issues like scheduling, transportation, holidays, events, medical issues, etc. As busy adults in an ever changing complicated world, we hope to be able to function and coordinate logistics as easily and as quickly as possible. Our intentions are usually to just get it all done and make it work as best as we can in the rubrics cube of life. So when we add a high conflict ex in the mix, it can lead to a full on meltdown in family planning and functioning. This is something no-one wants or has time for, especially the children involved. So what do we do to minimize these wrenches?